You Keep Me Sane
For 8 years, Aileen and Julie have been each other's sounding board from opposite sides of the globe – Aileen in London and Julie in Melbourne.
They have navigated everything – motherhood, relationships, menopause, health, grief, and everything in between – through daily voice messages. These exchanges often became lifelines, and now they share that space with their listeners.
In You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie hold honest conversations on life's challenges, growth, and connection. They lend an ear and share heartfelt insights, creating a space that allows both them, and you, to be human.
Listeners are encouraged to write in with their own experiences and topics, becoming part of the conversation that feels like a chat with close friends.
You Keep Me Sane
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Episode Overview
Ever feel like you become a past version of yourself around certain people or places? In this episode, we explore why we unconsciously shrink to fit old roles, especially with family or longtime friends. Inspired by a powerful listener letter, we talk about shifting identities, letting go of outdated labels, and the courage it takes to fully step into who you are now.
Key Discussion Points
- A listener’s story about reverting to their old self at home
- Why we fall back into habits around certain people
- The discomfort of being seen as your “past self”
- Unconscious roles and outdated labels from childhood
- Gossip as default behaviour—and why it’s hard to quit
- How to update your self-image and reclaim your present identity
Listener Takeaways
- Question old self-beliefs—they might not be true anymore
- You’re allowed to grow and change—give yourself that permission
- Notice when you're playing outdated roles—and step out of them
- Stand firm in who you are now, even if others don’t see it yet
- Surround yourself with people who honour your growth
Join the Conversation
What’s one outdated belief about yourself that you need to rewrite? And if you’re struggling to change, is it because you still believe the old story—or because the people around you do?
Send us an email at hello@youkeepmesane.com
DM us or leave us a voicemail with your thoughts
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Resources Mentioned
- Gabor Maté’s concept of connection vs. authenticity
- Note to Self (our upcoming book!) Watch this space…
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Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy
Editor: Allia Lenit Galos
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Disclaimer:
Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.