You Keep Me Sane
For 8 years, Aileen and Julie have been each other's sounding board from opposite sides of the globe – Aileen in London and Julie in Melbourne.
They have navigated everything – motherhood, relationships, menopause, health, grief, and everything in between – through daily voice messages. These exchanges often became lifelines, and now they share that space with their listeners.
In You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie hold honest conversations on life's challenges, growth, and connection. They lend an ear and share heartfelt insights, creating a space that allows both them, and you, to be human.
Listeners are encouraged to write in with their own experiences and topics, becoming part of the conversation that feels like a chat with close friends.
You Keep Me Sane
The Invisibility Cloak: Midlife, Visibility, and Redefining Worth | YKMS
Episode Overview
In this deeply reflective episode, Aileen and Julie explore the quiet but powerful transition many women experience in midlife—the shift from being seen and celebrated for youth and appearance to becoming quietly overlooked by a culture that worships the new. But is this invisibility a loss… or a kind of liberation?
Through honest conversation and personal stories, they unpack what it means to feel unseen in a world that once watched your every move, and how this stage of life can offer something far richer: presence, peace, and purpose.
Key Discussion Points
- The emotional impact of no longer being the center of cultural attention
- Watching their daughters enter a world of visibility, hustle, and image pressure
- The contrast between youth and midlife—performance vs. presence
- Grief, freedom, and what we gain as we age
- The idea of invisibility as a cloak we can choose to wear or shed
- How midlife brings deeper intuition, discernment, and authentic friendships
- Why being seen isn’t always about external eyes, but internal fullness
Listener Takeaways
- You’re not invisible—you’re evolving.
- This phase is full of wisdom, grounding, and power, even if the world doesn’t applaud it.
- Visibility doesn’t have to come from others—it can be something you claim for yourself.
- The freedom to stop hustling for approval is a gift of age.
- Ask yourself: What does visibility mean to you now?
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Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy
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Disclaimer:
Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.