You Keep Me Sane
For 10 years, Aileen and Julie have been each other's sounding board from opposite sides of the globe – Aileen in London and Julie in Melbourne.
They have navigated everything – motherhood, relationships, menopause, health, grief, and everything in between – through daily voice messages. These exchanges often became lifelines, and now they share that space with their listeners.
In You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie hold honest conversations on life's challenges, growth, and connection. They lend an ear and share heartfelt insights, creating a space that allows both them, and you, to be human.
Listeners are encouraged to write in with their own experiences and topics, becoming part of the conversation that feels like a chat with close friends.
You Keep Me Sane
Imposter Syndrome in Midlife: The Confidence Gap No One Talks About
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Episode Overview
This week, we’re returning to something we haven’t done in a while - reading a listener letter. And this one stopped us in our tracks.
Elsa writes about something so many of us quietly carry: doing well on paper, yet feeling like we’re one step away from being found out. The overthinking, the over-preparing, the constant questioning - it’s exhausting.
In this conversation, we unpack imposter syndrome through a self-worth lens. Why it often shows up in capable, high-achieving women. Why confidence doesn’t always follow experience. And why this might be less about competence - and more about self-trust.
Key Discussion Points
- Why imposter syndrome often shows up in high achievers
- The gap between how life looks externally and how it feels internally
- Overthinking, over-preparing, and the mental exhaustion that follows
- Comparing ourselves to others who seem more confident
- The difference between a competence gap and a self-trust gap
- Why confidence isn’t a prerequisite for showing up
Listener Takeaways
- You’re not the only one - imposter syndrome is far more common than we think
- Feeling like you’ll be “found out” doesn’t mean it’s true
- Confidence doesn’t automatically come with experience or success
- Awareness is the first step—notice the pattern, don’t immediately believe it
- You don’t need to feel fully ready or certain to take your place
- Self-worth isn’t built on getting everything right—it’s built on trusting yourself
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Disclaimer:
Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.